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Ep. 71: Gretchen Rubin Talks The Four Tendencies And Her Bold Career As A Bestseller

"You don't have to have a clean kitchen before you go to bed. You could choose to do that. This is where you can really learn from the rebels because the thing I've learned from rebels as an upholder is that we are way more free than we think. We are WAY more free than we think. There are all kinds of things that you feel like you have to do and you know what? You don't have to do them at all."

Gretchen Rubin is the author of several books, including the blockbuster New York Times bestsellers, Better Than Before, The Happiness Project and Happier at Home. On her podcast Happier with Gretchen Rubin, she discusses happiness with her sister Elizabeth Craft. On this episode, Gretchen talks about her new book The Four Tendencies, a personality paradigm that helps you learn how to understand yourself better and how to influence others more effectively. Gretchen also talks about her bold move of leaving the law to become a writer, just when she had reached the pinnacle of success after law school - clerking for Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O'Connor. As a bonus, Gretchen also shares the secret to getting your partner to do more housework!

"Who cares what you should be able to do? It's just whatever works for you."

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"The thing that I've learned the most about everything is this idea of 'be Gretchen.' In the end, I just have to understand myself and work with who I am, and I can't be distracted by what other people think or what other people assume that I am or what I wish I were. I am who I am and the more that I embrace that and go deep into it and think about 'what are my interests, what are my values, what's my nature, what do I care about?' I build my life around that."